Each year around my birthday, I try to make a list to encapsulate things I have learned in that year. Since this is the Happiness Rx and many of the people that visit this site are interested in self-improvement and making their life the happiest it can be- I thought this might be relevant this year.

 

1. Take it easy, life gets better when you take it slow

2. If you want love, give love

3. Make sure while life is in progress, you have a good time, no one else is going to do it for you…play scrabble, laugh at an old SNL, have conversations with high-pitched opera voices (not that ive ever done that)

4. Try to sit still at least 10 minutes a day, even if it has to be on your toilet, it will change your life

5. Judgement is an express train to depression since judging others ultimately judges ourselves and breeds isolation

6. If you want to feel more positive, do more positive- I’ve yet to meet a happy gossiper

7. Make yourself a priority at the beginning of the day, if you wait until the end- you never will

8. Happiness is a decision most of us have to make over and over again throughout each day

9. No one really thinks about our clothes, our hair, our fancy titles, or our careers/families as much as we worry they do, they’re too busy thinking you’re worrying about theirs

10. Getting angry, reactive, or frustrated doesn’t really hurt anyone but yourself

11. Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but doesn’t get you any place

12. Its likely that whatever you are worrying about in this moment, probably will be insignificant 6 months from now, so release it and let it go

13. That which we cannot let go of, we will never have

14. 99% of the time- don’t take it personally, others actions are usually never about us even if they involve us

15. God = Love, Ego= Edging God Out, whenever we are reactive, bitter, jealous, getting even, having the last word, and/or fearful- we are feeding the ego, starve it and start to experience a greater amount of love and peace

16. The only way to experience the 9′s and 10′s of life are to fully experience the 1′s and 2′s (you gotta be in the valleys to experience the peaks…etc)

17. The point of life is not to speed it up (Ghandi)

18. Daily life is much more enjoyable if we start out each day with a clean slate as we did as children…free of misperceptions, stories about what has happened before, preconceived notions, judgements, etc

19. Being happy doesn’t always mean being comfortable

20. Perceive badly, feel badly

21. If you’re bored, you’re probably being a boring person

22. You must yourself become a whole before ever adequately becoming someone else’s other half, and even then no one person ever totally completes you

23. A relationship is about what you can give, not what you can get

24. Don’t just act nice towards others, feel nice towards others- they can feel the difference and so can you, feeling happiness outwardly also fills us inwardly

25. Moods are like busses, if you’re in a bad one, step off and realize another one will come around in fifteen minutes

26. The love we give and receive is the only thing we take with us in the end

27. There is strength in flexibility, the same reason the solid land crumbles before the sea

28. The people who are the meanest towards you, probably need the most love and compassion

29. The potential to experience happiness, contentment, joy, god, and love is not occurring in some far off land, or some designated place in time once you fulfill all you “need” to do…god, love, peace exists within all of us right this very moment, and all you have to do is breathe instead of think, be instead of do

30. The waves of life won’t bother us if we realize we are the ocean

31. Never take life too seriously, no one gets out alive anyway

 

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Dr. Colleen Long (PSY23911) is the author of “Happiness in B.A.L.A.N.C.E,” and “Meditation Medication.”  Dr. Long works mainly from a positive psychology framework as it applies to addiction, depression, relationships,  body image and weight loss. Her website can be found at www.DrColleenLong.com. For a free consultation please contact her at 1-800-593-2560

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